New Beginnings – Part Two

Let’s pick up where we left off… If you haven’t read my previous blog on New Beginnings (and it really is required reading if you’re looking to start something new), check out PART ONE – HERE

New beginnings are always available to us. At times, they are forced upon us by life’s circumstances. Therefore, the choice is already made. However, you always have the choice of going into a situation where change is required with intention and a plan or kicking and screaming. The outcome is still the same – the change HAPPENS. To clarify, the difference is your approach and the additional discomfort you bring to yourself by trying to delay the inevitable.

I strongly believe that we, as humans, crave new beginnings. For the most part, it is our way of evolving and growing. It is an innate calling in all of us. Our soul requires growth. The deep spiritual side within us all, requires us to expand our experiences by learning more about ourselves and the world around us. Thus, transformation and new beginnings are about testing the limits of our greatest potential.

Let’s clarify some misunderstandings about transformation and new beginnings.

It’s not an all or nothing proposition. Leaving your job, your family, or your home is not required to begin a transformational journey. When we fear change, we tend to think in absolutes. The all or nothing mindset is what trips us up and has us resisting the change that is inevitable.

I really hate to pull out that old card again. Undoubtedly, you have heard this old adage a million times. The fact is it couldn’t be truer.  Transformation is not about the “THING” we acquire or achieve. If transformation is embarked upon with self-awareness, the purpose is what we learn about ourselves and the pursuit of reaching our highest potential. For this reason, it’s about overcoming those internal blocks that prevent us from taking a chance and making a change.

Moreover, new beginnings are not about restriction and limitation. It is absolutely about expansion and specifically expanding in those areas in your life that you secretly (and maybe openly) dream about. The either/or mindset needs to go away. This is a BOTH/AND world. You can achieve your dreams AND take loving care of your family. For this reason, you don’t need to choose between your commitments and your dreams. 

Why would I want to get out of my comfort zone?  It’s – well – comfortable !  Maybe not so much. What it is – is familiar. Evolutionarily, we were predisposed to remain with people, in situations, and maintain certain behaviors because of the perception that it would keep us safe from harm. Read here some other reasons why we steer towards familiarity.  Why do we like familiarity? – Speeli

Furthermore, comfort is rarely satisfying for too long. We settle in, get comfortable, then we need to change positions. This is the cyclical nature of life and the transformation we MUST experience.

I can absolutely promise you that you will feel a certain level of fear and doubt if you try something new or put yourself out there. Indeed, it comes with the territory. If you’re NOT feeling fear, I would argue, that maybe you’re not taking a big enough chance.

On the other hand, familiarity and comfort can be “NICE”. As a result of maintaining this “NICE” feeling, however, you’ll likely have an incessant and stubborn nagging of what could have been if you took the chance.

Because what we desire doesn’t automatically show up, we need to usher it in. I spend many wasted years attempting to invoke “The Secret” to usher in the new life I thought I was meant to live. My first problem with that approach is that I wasn’t clear on what it is I really wanted. I could give you a list of things I didn’t want but had not explored my desires enough to know what it is that I DID want.

The second problem with that approach is that typically situations and people don’t just show up on our doorstep, announcing that “Change has arrived!” We first need to get clear on what we want and really infuse these desires into our DNA. Once we do that, the steps we need to take to make that dream a reality will materialize and become clearer. You first have to see it, feel it, then you can experience it.  Consistent action over time will bring the change you desire.

Unexpectedly, new beginnings are forced on us. Even though, they are not what we would have chosen and yet, they are presented to us as an opportunity to grow and evolve. At times, the fear can be overwhelming. With this in mind, use the tips below to bust through the fear you feel when a life transformation is upon you.

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